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[[ Free kindle ]] Falling Leaves: The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese DaughterAuthor Adeline Yen Mah –

I couldn t put down this book, but it was utterly, utterly depressing I mentioned that to a friend, who glanced at it and said, Uh, did you see the subtitle What did you think it was going to be Touch The few moments of respite from wanting to cry were when Mah put in Chinese history for context, which worked well, was helpful, and as I said, let me breathe for a moment before I inevitably wanted to go back in time and adopt this poor creature.And that was the thing that got me at least twice in this book, an adult outside of the family shows they are clearly aware of what s going on The most shining example is when Niang s sister picks up Adeline from school and tells her, Don t worry, I ll treat you all the same So, how in the hell could they just hand her back over to her family The husband worked for the UN, it s not as if they had to worry about insane repercussions, considering they could just point to the obvious abuses she had suffered and ruin the family s reputation I digress.I definitely became super frustrated with Mah by the end, because I could not for the life of me understand how, living on a separate continent for years and years, she still cared so much what these psychopaths thought of her I related and wanted to know about Susan, who also rejected the will money And I agree with other reviewers who thought the focus on that seemed odd, and came off as selfish I don t think it s selfish, because hello, you were abused for years and your parents are loaded, certainly you re entitled to hope that at least when they kick it you ll get something out of it but at the same time, I can t really relate to someone who would even want a cent of that kind of person s money, especially when they already made a great living completely on their own merit.As a side note While this certainly wasn t the most amazing book I ve ever read, I m a little concerned at some of the reviews that depict the author as whiny and spoiled for wanting tram fare to go the mile and a half to school when she was six, and living in the middle of a metropolis In addition, it s a bit of a reach to say she was whiny in general If you think any type of behavior aside from psychopathy under the age of 13 the age at which she s sent away to boarding school , especially when said child is earning straight A s and winning writing contests, earns a child the abuse she endured, you re absolutely nuts I actually wonder if people are thinking she s older in parts of the book than she actually was.And again whiny because when her friends gave her a surprise party for winning class president, she got a bloody nose and all of her friends were sent home She was TEN.I don t think anyone can argue that this family is ridiculously dysfunctional, with Niang being the sort of psychopathic mastermind behind all of it The siblings behavior isn t mean in the typical sense, but they were trained to be manipulative, demeaning, and disgusting Basically, a Lord of the Flies situation Again, sort of scary people think that this is normal My brother and I weren t friends growing up, but he never was cruel or pissed in my orange juice THEY PISSED IN HER ORANGE JUICE Ugh. This memoir of an unwanted Chinese daughter failed to fully gain my sympathy for its author Adeline Yen Mah was born in 1937 to a wealthy family in Tianjin Her mother died shortly thereafter and her father married a woman who would become Adeline s wicked stepmother When the family moved to Shanghai, Adeline was forced to endure the hideousness of her straight Chinese hair when she longed for a perm like the stylish westerns had She and her brothers were forced to walk nearly three miles to school And they were deprived of pocket change with which to buy little candies And sometimes, her siblings were mean to her Adeline Yen Mah paints herself as a saint while bitterly recalling every injustice she endured throughout her childhood Yes, her stepmother was a cruel bitch from hell but Adeline never shares with her readers anything she ever did to a another human being that she regrets And for this reason it s difficult for this reader to completely trust or sympathize with her account What I did appreciate from this book was the author s constant referral to the economic and political changes that were taking place in China from 1937 to 1994 For this reason I might read some of her other books I feel she has a lot to offer the world through her writing if she could stop obsessing about gaining the love and approval of her flaccid father and her icy stepmother, especially when she measures love and approval in terms of how much money is given to her in their respective wills. Falling Leaves, The True Story of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter is a look at the culture, country, and family relationships that just didn t work for any of the children in this wealthy Chinese family, especially for one young girl, Adeline Yen Mah She was born in 1937 and her mother died when she was born, and her new mother was Eurasian who brought her own children into the marriage She struggled to be loved by the family but was treated cruelly Her respect for and effort to be part of the family, presents insights into the culture Her relationships with her siblings as a young girl, and later as a successful woman, added a dimension to the cruelty she suffered from both of her parents This Chinese proverb described her life When leaves fall down they return to their roots It was hard to understand why she would have even wanted to return to her roots It seemed that the real roots in this family was her strength In 1949 Adeline was 12 years old with the impact of Mao on China and the revolution things changed for her father He hoped to that the new government in Hong Kong might make things better for the family during the revolution in China It didn t get better for Adeline and she did not find love with either her dad or stepmother or with any of her 6 brothers and sisters An aunt offered her love and encouragement to leave, and she went with her to the United States where she was realized her goals as a student and then was able to have a happy marriage Her insights and successes, against all odds, are a fascinating part of this book This Chinese proverb, When leaves fall down they return to their roots , described her life She didn t want to return to her roots but then her real roots were her real roots, and those of her own family, was her strength.This book is one that I didn t want to put down It left me anxious to find out what was coming next For on this book see web site This is a bio with a particularly brutal twist It s not a pretty book It s a narrative of a viciously dysfunctional family For those who don t know Chinese culture, it s also a pretty authentic look at the old hierarchy of family relationships The nauseating insane character of Niang, a truly Machiavellian monster of a stepmother, pervades the story, deforming family life Adeline s innocent and understandably bewildered blundering through her early life is bad enough, but the story gets even twisted as it goes along The relentless battering of nasty events in the story isn t pleasant reading The almost Gulag Archipelago like nature of the cruelty in the family is impossible to like It reminded me a bit of David Copperfield, at some points Falling Leaves leaves for dead so many fictional versions of family life This is a story of premeditated cruelty to a family member I saw one review saying Why should I care about this person and another which disliked the way it claims Adeline presents herself as a victim , with which I utterly disagree I can t claim to understand, let alone sympathize, with either viewpoint on principle Approving or disapproving of someone s life story isn t a very realistic approach to reading a bio Would reviewers prefer that the person had a different life story How Excuse my mentioning this point, but if the criteria for biographies was whether or not reviewers liked someone s life story, literature would be much poorer Western readers may find some difficulty understanding the cultural references This is a very Chinese story Add to this the Chinese revolution, the rise of Hong Kong after 1949 and the Cultural Revolution, and Falling Leaves is a good introduction to the realities of being Chinese in the modern sense History for this generation of Chinese was pure hell The very black irony in Falling Leaves is that the family managed to add so much misery to its existence at such a time in history, even while being comparatively rich You will find this a particularly confronting book You will not expect the ending, or the logic of family behaviour There are no cute bits, and even the occasional softenings of some parts of the story have a range of payoffs A fiction writer could not have written this book Read it as a story, and you ll see a book that needed to be written Read it as a bio, and you ll see a story which can barely fit in to the book Adeline did a good job of making this tale comprehensible, and she deserves credit for that. In English we say An apple falls close to the tree meaning you are like your family In Shanghai they say The leaves fall close to the roots meaning you always go back to family, to your roots like it or not.Covering a sweeping range of China s immediate past, from the 1930s to today, this book is partly fascinating history of a period of enormous upheaval and change, partly telenovela of the Falcon Crest sort, as it tells the story of a wealthy family and the machinations of the wicked stepmother to control everything from economic resources to her children s behaviour.I ve read a lot of scathing reviews of this book, most of which attack the author the unwanted fifth daughter for whining and being a victim This is perhaps an understandable response on the part of a reader who has never been the scapegoat of a closed, dysfunctional family dynamic For those of us who have been in that particular hotseat even without the Asian family background it s a little different A rejected child often will do anything for a bit of approval on the part of the adults in her life I ve seen this even in single child families in which the child is given all the advantages of special classes and opportunities to develop their talents, travel with parents, etc And how many memoirs of children of the wealthy are there that reveal the ugliness under the privilege Considering that the author was programmed from Day 1 to believe that she had cost her father s beloved first wife her life by just being born, and therefore deserved nothing, it s suprising she made anything of herself If Yen Mah never got the counselling and guidance she needed to restore her sense of self worth, it s not surprising that she never had the strength to make a final break with her family A truly dysfunctional family does operate like a soap opera in many ways I grew up in one as another last child who should have been a boy and wasn t, though we were working class, and I was fortunate enough to find the tools and strength to break away I never outgrew my dream of a happy, united family, though by now I know it s a dream As Yen Mah s brother James remarks in the narrativeYour problem is that you re always transferring your own feelings and reasonings to others You wanted to believe we all shared your dream of a united family In fact, no one cared except for youI hear that For that very reason I have never written about my own experiences, though some have encouraged me to It wasn t pleasant to live it, why put it out there and spread the misery Besides, catharsis can often spill over into payback And at some point your abusers have to become unimportant in your life otherwise, they just keep winning, even after they re dead At some point they ve got to stop controlling the inside of your head.I did find the part where the author finds comfort and release from the burden in a folk tale a bit wish fulfillment, but she probably wanted to end on a positive note and a lesson. I really didn t like this book About 1 3 of the way through, I thought to myself, Why do I care about this person I even asked out loud a couple of nights later why I was reading the book To which my husband replied, Then don t read it But, not one to stop a book half way through, I continued on I hoped that eventually I would come to understand why I should care about the author At the end though, I still didn t Sure, she had a crap childhood For that, I give her pity Her step mother didn t like her But, her stepmother didn t like any of the kids Plus, it wasn t like she was getting thrown in a closet Sure, she was sent away to boarding schoolbut at least she got an education In the end, she was able to make a success out of her life What really got me is that she couldn t believe her stepmother had left her out of the will Come on, who didn t see that coming Her stepmother was evil I don t know why the author kept expecting that to change I wanted to scream, Grow up and get over it Your childhood sucked, your step mother was evil, your brothers and sisters were back stabbers I felt that this book was full of self pity, which she s never overcome Waaaaaah Waaaaaaaah Waaaaaah. Falling leaves is the second book I read from Adeline Yan Mah, which is a connecting story to The Chinese Cinderella Since I read The Chinese Cinderella first so the Falling Leaves doesnt seem as interesting I got pretty bored at the beginning so I strongly recommend readers to read this book before the other The first half of the book discuesses how Adeline was teased by her siblings because after few days of her birth, her mother pass away Which her rich father got another wife that is half french Their stepmother doesn t like them and treat them way too unfairly compare to her own children Adeline s brothers and sister blame her for having such stepmother Continuing from the Chinese Cinderella, Adeline s father decide that her daughter does have the potential to go to college and so he sent her to America Where Adeline met her lovely husband and later helped her father through care and paying money to cure her father in U.S This is one of the book that show the theme of hard workers will get what they deserve at the end I believe her story will influence people to understand and provide unconditional care with love to their family. This fabulous autobiography is both a Cinderella story and a view into 20th century Chinese life The author was born to a successful family in Shanghai, but had the bad luck to be the baby born just before her mother s death She was despised, not only by her siblings but by the woman that her father married She spent her young life trying to please her parents and trying to bring her family together It is a portrait of a very dysfunctional family My heart ached for Adeline at the numerous injustices imposed on her by her cruel stepmother Thankfully Adeline found some encouragement from an aunt This autobiography demonstrates how one can overcome hurdles and succeed.I enjoyed the vibrant descriptions of Shanghai and the historical information about the changing China from 1920 s to today Highly recommend The book was published in the height of the Chinese mania in America It was the time when the likes of Joy Luck Club and Wild Swan were bestsellers I thought it was another me too and never got to read it until now This is the summary of what I think The good her style of peppering the story with chinese proverbs characters, pronunciation, translation interesting peek of Shanghai in its glory straight from the person who lived that kind of life and engaging story telling.The bad a tad too whiny and self pitying She presents the typical David vs Goliath battle a tad too shallow and tedious Miseries are repeated over and over again with little lesson learned a tad too simplistic and biased She and everyone else on her side are angelic The rest are evil.To me, there was only ONE entertaining moment in this book Her eldest brother and apparent heir, Gregory, wrote a 6 pages letter to their father asking his permission to become a bridge player He promptly send a telegram containing this very simple advice why don t you become a pimp instead.I don t agree with the practice of mapping out a child s life and, to certain cultures, this may even provoke anger but, knowing the Chinese background, this is hilarious It is so typical of Chinese parents to disapprove such flamboyant career and the way the father put a stop to it is also so typical of the Chinese I just have to laugh.Despite her repeated denial not only here but also in her other book, A Thousand Pieces of Gold , I can t help but feeling that this particular book is her little revenge I also doubt that she sincerely not sore for not getting the huge inheritance I mean, she mentions it so many times in her book on the excuse that inheritance is her only way of knowing for sure that her parents approve of her but we don t see her youngest sister Susan, who was disowned for bravely walking out the door in rebellion against her birth mother s abuse, whining about exclusion from the inheritance No wonder her brother James doesn t speak to her any By writing this book, she, again, defies her father who said Family ugliness should never be aired in public.Instead of thinking how brave she was, I get a feeling that she was a spoiled little girl She described how she refused to eat fatty meat at all cost when fatty meat was considered as a source of nourishment for children at that time and to learn the value of money by asking for the tram fare.Conclusion fun read but her other books, A Thousand Pieces of God is a better and original memoir and book However, if you can t stand another whine from another Cinderella, skip it. Born In In A Port City A Thousand Miles North Of Shanghai, Adeline Yen Mah Was The Youngest Child Of An Affluent Chinese Family Who Enjoyed Rare Privileges During A Time Of Political And Cultural Upheaval But Wealth And Position Could Not Shield Adeline From A Childhood Of Appalling Emotional Abuse At The Hands Of A Cruel And Manipulative Eurasian Stepmother Determined To Survive Through Her Enduring Faith In Family Unity, Adeline Struggled For Independence As She Moved From Hong Kong To England And Eventually To The United States To Become A Physician And WriterA Compelling, Painful, And Ultimately Triumphant Story Of A Girl S Journey Into Adulthood, Adeline S Story Is A Testament To The Most Basic Of Human Needs Acceptance, Love, And Understanding With A Powerful Voice That Speaks Of The Harsh Realities Of Growing Up Female In A Family And Society That Kept Girls In Emotional Chains, Falling Leaves Is A Work Of Heartfelt Intimacy And A Rare Authentic Portrait Of Twentieth Century China